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Tuesday, November 28th

Millennial Money: 5 steps to creating financial boundaries during the holidays

By ELIZABETH AYOOLA of NerdWallet

FILE - In this June 15, 2018, file photo, cash is fanned out from a wallet in North Andover, Mass. The holidays are a time when travel, gift buying and family outings are abundant. The season can lead you to feel pressured to spend more than you usually would. For this reason, it's important to have financial boundaries in place to safeguard your finances. The steps that can help you establish and uphold financial boundaries include creating a financial plan for 2024, learning how to say no, acknowledging any guilt that comes up and exploring your beliefs around holiday spending. (AP Photo/Elise Amendola, File)

Marketing ads, family functions and holiday gift-giving culture can make it feel impossible not to spend, or for some, overspend. According to a 2023 survey from NerdWallet, around half of Americans (52%) incurred credit card debt when shopping for gifts during the holidays last year, and almost a third (31%) of them still haven't paid it off.

While giving can be noble, consider setting boundaries when it comes to lending and spending money during the holidays.

STEP 1: SET 2024 MONEY GOALS

It can be difficult to rein in your spending during the holidays if you don't have a reason. Begin the process of mapping out your financial goals for 2024 to help avoid shortsightedness while spending. For instance, if you want to make larger payments on your student loan or save for a down payment on a new car next year, overspending during the holidays could set you back.

"Really be brutally honest about what your financial commitments for January and February (are)," says Yvette Murry, a clinical social worker in Princeton, New Jersey, who helps clients with financial wellness.

Starting your 2024 budget now can help prevent both unwanted debt and regret come the new year.

STEP 2: PRACTICE SAYING NO TO REQUESTS

Prices are high, and requests to borrow money this time of the year might be, too. As much as you may feel obligated to play Santa and give cash to everyone who asks, it could put you in a financial bind come the new year.

"Too often we do what others want us to do and then find ourselves in a position that really is not best for us or for our families or our mental health," Murry says.

When you do get requests beyond your capacity, prepare to say no. For those who aren't well-versed in 'no,' Traci Williams, a certified financial therapist and psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia, provides an example of how to say it.

"You can say something along the lines of, 'Thank you so much for thinking of me when you're planning this. I am unable to do it because it's outside of my budget,'" Williams says. "Something that is simple and short like that can help to preserve the relationship."

Consider including a "lending bucket" in your budget, which comprises an amount that doesn't throw your finances off. You may also want to stick to only lending what you can afford not to get back.

STEP 3: UNDERSTAND IT'S OK TO FEEL GUILTY

Guilt can come when you say no, whether that's to requests for money, traveling to see family or buying your partner an expensive gift. When we say no, we may feel guilt because of expectations from ourselves, family and society, Williams says.

"If you can tune in to what actually is important to you, what your actual values are, and you can hold firm to those, you're less likely to feel guilt," she says.

To deal with those difficult feelings, Williams suggests first identifying them.

"A lot of people feel things and don't realize what the actual feeling is," she says. Once you name the feeling, you can counter it by reinforcing why you made that decision, she adds. For instance, if you have to say no to buying gifts this year, remember the importance of creating financial stability for yourself.

STEP 4: EXPLORE YOUR MOTIVATIONS AROUND HOLIDAY SPENDING

Many of our money habits may be driven by subconscious beliefs or motivations, even during the holidays. To understand why you're making certain financial decisions, Murry suggests asking yourself the motivation behind loaning someone money or spending.

"Am I seeking to right a wrong? Am I seeking to fulfill a need I had as a child? Ask, 'Why I am making those decisions?'" she says.

Understanding your motivations for spending can help you reinforce boundaries and potentially establish new money beliefs rooted in values you want to emulate. For example, if you realize you overspend on gifts because you were taught by your parents that gifts are the best way to show love, you may decide giving intangible gifts of time or love are more important to you.

STEP 5: REMEMBER HOLIDAY PRESSURE IS NORMAL

Holiday pressure is real and it can cause us to exceed our budgets. Acknowledging that holiday pressure is normal can help you stay focused and within your budget. Williams says to remember you don't have to do everything, and expecting that of yourself is unrealistic.

"Recognizing that that pressure exists and that marketing is doing its job can help you to remember that you have to stick to your own goals," she says.

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This column was provided to The Associated Press by the personal finance site NerdWallet. Elizabeth Ayoola is a writer at NerdWallet.

Methodology

The NerdWallet survey was conducted online within the United States by The Harris Poll on behalf of NerdWallet from Aug. 17-21, 2023, among 2,069 U.S. adults ages 18 and older, among whom 1,762 plan to purchase gifts this holiday season. The sampling precision of Harris online polls is measured by using a Bayesian credible interval. For this study, the sample data is accurate to within +/- 2.7 percentage points using a 95% confidence level.

"Holiday season" refers to the period from Aug. 17 to the end of 2023.

We used U.S. Census population estimates and survey responses to calculate the total number of Americans who plan to buy gifts this holiday season, as well as the total gift spending and the total gift spending charged to credit cards.